June: Honor the Father Tag

Thank you to Dawn at Drawing Closer to Christ for nominating me for Honor the Father Tag.

Here are the links to the original authors of this unique tag: Dollfaced Writer and Purple Rose.

The meaning of this tag

From Dollface


A father is someone who loves his child unconditionally, provides for them, protects them always, teaches them values, disciplines them fairly, and wants the best for them. For that, we should always, ALWAYS have respect for our fathers. They are created to bear the responsibility of caring for and protecting their families just as God calls them to do. Father’s Day is about reminding your father how much you appreciate him, but I hope this tag will perhaps remind you this month how blessed you are to have a father at all.

As I said before, this is a very hard day for me every year. My father and I have a very complex relationship. In fact, it is the polar opposite of my relationship with my mother. Growing up I felt abandoned, rejected, unloved, forgotten, and neglected because of his behavior that stemmed from alcoholism and what I believe could have been other mental health issues (don’t quote me, I’m not a doctor XD).

I will always love my father. He is a part of me, half of me to be exact. However, mustering the strength to honor or respect him at all has taken a long time to do. We talk sometimes over text, but not a lot. Some days he responds and I feel like we’re getting somewhere, then he vanishes like he always did. It has helped living a thousand miles away from him since finishing high school, but I have come to accept the pain I feel from my childhood will never go away. Recently, in the last week actually, he said something that has proven he’ll never change. I was trying to gain closure, but he continues to blame me for things that I may talk about in another post. Anyways, he may move on in his life, which is painful for me to watch, but that doesn’t change the past he continues to deny and blame me for.

If you have a similar situation, whether you have been abused, manipulated, abandoned, or rejected by your father (even someone else in your family), can I give you some advice that has helped me cope with such a toxic relationship?

You have a choice. You can walk away. You can block a number. You can say no. You can cut them off from your life. That doesn’t mean you don’t honor them, that just means you have enough respect for yourself to protect your heart and enough respect for them to love them at a safe distance. You can pray for someone every day and never talk to them again. Isn’t that better than subjecting yourself to more pain and building up further resentment that could become the poison of unforgiveness? I think so, because no one deserves to be abused in any way. You deserve love. If you don’t/didn’t receive that love from your father, always know you have a Father in Heaven who loves you more than your father ever could.

I hope you do have an awesome father though. If you do, give him a bear hug and be grateful to have the best protector you could have on this earth. If you don’t, pray for him, friend

❤

Here are the rules:

1. Thank the person who nominated you to participate.

2. Use the original featured image.

3. Copy and paste the introduction and meaning of this tag at the beginning of your post, along with the links to both creators’ original posts. *This rule is very important. Please, please link this post and Purple Rose’s post so that as authors we may be alerted when a tag is published. It also gives us proper credit, which is much appreciated. Thank you 

4. Answer the questions.

5. Nominate one or more people to participate.

6. Enjoy the rest of your month! 

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My dad 1920-2015 (taken in 2012)

Here are the questions for this month’s tag:

1. What is your relationship like with your biological father, if anything at all?

My dad died in March, 2015 at the age of 94, but I still feel a strong bond with him and he’s in my thoughts often. Something always occurs to bring back funny and happy memories of him. He was a good dad, but I never really got close to him until my mum passed away in 2012. I’m glad I got the chance to get to know him properly.

2. What is one thing you would change about your father if you could? What is one thing you wouldn’t change?

When my parents were both still alive, my dad knew just which buttons to push to wind my mother up, which caused chaos in our home. It was entertainment to him, but I wish he hadn’t done it quite so much.

I wouldn’t change how kind he was, especially to animals.

3. Who do you celebrate on Father’s Day (your father, step-father, grandfather, uncle, etc.)?

I celebrate my own dad, my husband’s dad (also passed away) and the hubster.

4. What was the most valuable thing he taught you?

Try to always be honest.

5. What is one thing he does that you would never do?

I didn’t dare wind my mother up the way he did!

6. How do you honor him on Father’s Day?

Hubby and I remember our dads and talk over the special times together.

7. How has your relationship with him impacted the person/parent you are today?

He was always honest and fair and he passed that on to me. He also loved gardening, animals and nature and, thankfully, he gifted those traits to me also.

I am tagging…

Anyone who would like to share their dad with us. 💕

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Peace Begins With Me

This wonderful post from Ann at ‘the Vine Blog’ speaks for itself. 💕

"The Vine "- The Christian Blog

Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. Matthew 5: 9

A Beacon of Light
On March 16th, I woke up to the devastating news of the mass shooting which took place in New Zealand. As they prayed peacefully, gunmen opened fire on the worshippers; their families now left to mourn in agony. I asked God to mend the hearts of those affected and to bring peace to their souls.

He heals the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds. “Psalm 147:3

The Bible instructs all Christians to be the light in this troubled world. It is my duty to live peacefully among others, despite our differences. It is the duty of all Christians to shine, especially when everything else is falling apart.


You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp…

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Apartment For Sale In The Italian Alps

My blogging friend. Allen, has an apartment for sale in the Italian Alps. He’s keen to talk to serious prospective buyers. Would you please re-blog if so inclined. Thank you

allenrizzi

Hello to all of you readers out there! I am re-posting this for sale announcement again because we are in Italy once more and anxious to sell our place here. Here is the original post:

https://rizziallen.wordpress.com/2016/11/04/apartment-for-sale-in-the-italian-alps/

If you have an interest, please get in touch directly through commenting on this site. LEave a contact and I will get back to you immediately. I am looking forward to speaking to serious buyers.

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Sunshine Blogger Award

Thank you Dawn for my nomination. Visit Dawn’s blog, ‘Drawing Closer to Christ’ here. You’ll find encouraging and uplifting posts about the Word and teaching of God.

The Sunshine Blogger Award is peer recognition for bloggers who inspire readers by promoting positivity and promoting joy.

Dawn’s questions to me:

1-What’s an important lesson you’ve learned in life? That God’s divinity is in everyone and even though I may not like someone, God loves them just as much as he loves me. He has no favourites.

2-What is a good book you’ve read? My favourite book of all time is Tom’s Midnight Garden, a children’s fantasy novel by Philippa Pearce.

3-What is your favourite characteristic about yourself? I try not to hold a grudge. I’m not afraid to say ‘sorry’ when necessary.

4-What are your hobbies? Writing, reading and walking.

5-Why did you start blogging? I enjoy writing, and blogging is a great way to connect with others. I’ve ‘met’ people with similar interests to myself and ‘met’ those who have taught me completely new things.

6-What topics, if any, have you wanted to write about but haven’t because you feel your “fan base” would not approve? I sometimes enjoy crude little poems, as in the example below, but I’m not sure it would sit right with the rest of my content. Then again, God has a great sense of humour!

7-Are you married or single, kids or no kids? I’m married and have three sons and a daughter, and three grand-children.

8-What are you passionate about and why? I’m passionate about animal welfare. When God put animals under the dominion of humankind, I can’t think he intended for them to suffer the cruelty of such things as the intensive factory farming system, where many animals never see the light of day during their short lives.

9-What is your favourite food? I’m vegetarian and enjoy cooking meals from scratch. At the moment I’m loving risotto recipes.

10-Do you prefer a plane ride or a road trip? For excitement, you can’t beat a ride in a plane, especially that moment when the wheels leave the ground and the engine is roaring! And being able to look down on the clouds is amazing.

11-If you could wake up in the morning in a different place, where would that place be? Out of all the exotic places I could choose, I would still like to wake up in Liverpool, England.

I nominate the following bloggers. Please answer the questions below. There’s no pressure to participate, but it would be great to get to know you better.

Perfect Chaos

Opher’s World

Hope in Your Story

Soul Gifts – Telling Tales

Seeking God’s Face Together

Krishnapriya22013

Fun with Philosophy

The Inspirational Room by Fay Ann Swearing

The Captain’s Speech

Revolutionary Musings

Wish I Could Have Been There

Here are your questions:-

1- If you could change your career, and anything was possible, what would you choose?

2- Describe your ideal house and garden. Allow your imagination to run riot.

3- Which is your favourite city from those you’ve visited?

4- Describe your ideal holiday – money no object.

5- Do you have a particular worry at the moment?

6- What is the scariest film/movie you’ve ever seen?

7- If you could travel back in time to any period in history, which would it be and why?

8- If you could somehow magically enter a famous painting for a day, which would it be and why?

9- You’re invited to a fancy dress party. Who or what are you going as?

10- If you had to name your house/home, what would you call it?

11-Name a book that you couldn’t put down.

Rules:-

• Thank the person who nominated you and provide a link back to him/her.

• Answer the 11 questions provided by the blogger who nominated you.

• Nominate 11 other bloggers and ask them 11 new questions.

• Notify the nominees by commenting on one of their blog posts.

• List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo on your post.

Avoid your pain

Re-blog: a thought-provoking and valuable post from Shaun at Hope in Your Story.

Hope in Your Story

Ok, so your probably thinking ‘wait there usually encouraging people, to share their story and talk about their pain’

Read on…

The devil uses our imperfections and our past mistakes, to convince us that we should avoid the pain at all cost.

The pain is how uncomfortable we get when we expose our wounds. He doesn’t want any of us to do that, because he knows bringing things out of the dark, means their exposed to vulnerability and to the light.

Their no longer hidden and you and I have the opportunity, to clean the house. Forgiveness of self is a very powerful thing, but that never happens when we put paddocks on our pain.

What’s really going on is the devil is trying to convince people, that they aren’t worth the conversations that could save their life. He convinces people that alcohol is a great tool, for numbing the…

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Thank you to the heroes of Normandy

For most of the day, I’ve been thinking about the D-Day Landings in Normandy, which took place 75 years ago on this day, June 6th. When I stand by the military graves in our local cemetery, I see the names of soldiers and sailors – some as young as 17.

The photograph below is of my father. He was in the Royal Air Force and he often spoke about the younger brother he lost at Normandy. He made the trip to visit his grave in France as often as he could.

It is a poignant day, thinking of all those young people who died so young and the families left behind to mourn for them.

My lovely dad with Rob
Surviving veterans return to Normandy

I thank God for these brave men and all those who lost their lives and didn’t come home. It’s because of them that we get to enjoy the peace and freedom that we have today. Amen.

Good People Doing Good Things — Finn Lanning

Here is Christ’s love in action.

Filosofa's Word

His name is Damien, last name unknown, and he is 13 years old.  Let me tell you a bit about Damien.  He was placed in foster care at a very early age, and as so often happens, has been bounced from one foster home to another.  When he was eight years old, Damien’s kidneys both stopped working and he was diagnosed with a serious kidney disease, focal segmental glomerulosclerosis.  The only cure is a kidney transplant, and meanwhile Damien must spend more than 12 hours per day hooked to a dialysis machine.

DamienThere is a rule in the medical community about transplant recipients … they must have a stable home — homeless people are not placed on the list because they tend to have more complications.  Much of the time, Damien’s only home has been a hospital, when foster homes have not worked out, often because of the intensive care…

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My Honours List – Part 1

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could name a plant/flower after anyone we wanted to. These are some of my choices but this will be an ongoing series as there are so many worthy candidates, whether people who are already famous or those who go about their daily business without ever reaching the limelight.

Doctor Albert Schweitzer

Dr Albert Schweitzer 1875-1965

Doctor Schweitzer was a physician, humanitarian, theologian and musician who started a hospital in Africa to treat African natives. He won the Nobel Peace Prize in 1952 for his efforts in the campaign against nuclear weapons. His philosophy in life was one of compassion towards all life, human and non-human species. He is among the greatest of role models. If I could name a plant after Doctor Schweitzer, it would be a Bamboo which, in China, is considered to be ‘a gentleman with perfect virtues’. It has the perfect balance of grace and strength.

‘At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us’. (Albert Schweitzer)

Sophie Scholl

Sophia Magdalena Scholl 1921-1943

Sophie Scholl was a young German student who, along with her brother Hans, was a member of a non-violent resistance group in Nazi Germany. The group, horrified at hearing accounts of soldiers’ behaviour at the Front and of the mass killings of Jews, began to compose and distribute anti-war leaflets. Sophie and Hans were eventually caught distributing leaflets at the University of Munich. Subsequently they, and other members of the group, were executed. Sophie was a member of the resistance group ‘The White Rose’, but I would name a yellow rose after her because she was a ray of sunshine in this world and it signifies her final comment (below). In floral terms a yellow rose bears the meaning ‘I care’…. which she certainly did. 

“Such a fine, sunny day, and I have to go, but what does my death matter, if through us thousands of people are awakened and stirred to action?” (Sophie Scholl just before her execution)

Christopher Reeve

Christopher Reeve 1952-2004

When the name Christopher Reeve is mentioned, the fictional character of Superman springs to mind. Christopher Reeve was not only Superman in the world of films but in real life also. After suffering a spinal cord injury during a horse-riding accident, he became a wonderful ambassador for the funding of stem cell research and he never lost hope that a cure would be found.
Of Christopher Reeve, U C Irvine said, “In the years following his injury, Christopher did more to promote research on spinal cord injury and other neurological disorders than any other person before or since.” The two words that describe Christopher Reeve to me are dignity and hope, so his special flower would be the dahlia since that is what it signifies. The Superman colours of blue and red would be ideal, but I’m not sure that anyone has bred a dahlia with blue in it yet.

“Don’t give up. Don’t lose hope. Don’t sell out.” (Christopher Reeve)

~to be continued~

God The Artist

God The Artist

By Angela Morgan

God, when you thought of a pine tree,
How did you think of a star?
How did you dream of the Milky Way
To guide us from afar.
How did you think of a clean brown pool
Where flecks of shadows are?

God, when you thought of a cobweb,
How did you think of dew?
How did you know a spider’s house
Had shingles bright and new?
How did you know the human folk
Would love them like they do?

God, when you patterned a bird song,
Flung on a silver string,
How did you know the ecstasy
That crystal call would bring?
How did you think of a bubbling throat
And a darling speckled wing?

God, when you chiseled a raindrop,
How did you think of a stem,
Bearing a lovely satin leaf
To hold the tiny gem?
How did you know a million drops
Would deck the morning’s hem?

Why did you mate the moonlit night
With the honeysuckle vines?
How did you know Madeira bloom
Distilled ecstatic wines?
How did you weave the velvet disk
Where tangled perfumes are?
God, when you thought of a pine tree,
How did you think of a star?

A Prayer of Gratitude for Creation

God of the universe,

We thank You for Your many good gifts –

For the beauty of Creation and its rich and varied fruits,

For clean water and fresh air, for food and shelter, animals and plants.

Forgive us for the times we have taken the earth’s resources

for granted

And wasted what You have given us.

Transform our hearts and minds

So that we would learn to care and share,

To touch the earth with gentleness and with love,

Respecting all living things.

We pray for all those who suffer as a result of our waste,

greed and indifference,

And we pray that the day would come when everyone has enough

food and clean water.

Help us to respect the rights of all people and all species 

And help us to willingly share your gifts

Today and always. 

Amen.

( Fiona Murdoch, Eco-Congregation Ireland)

Blogging Break

Dear friends, I’m taking a break from blogging for a while as there are some things coming up that I need to give my full attention to. This means that I won’t be posting and will not be commenting on posts.

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your fields and until we meet again, may God hold you in the palm of His hand.

(traditional Gaelic blessing)